Wonder....

In light of recent blogs being posted by people, I have decided to follow suit and write a more serious blog today.

Life is a really complicated thing, not just the whole breathing, brain functioning all at the same time side, but also our behaviour, our personalities, ourselves as people. Can we truly say we know who we are when we are this young? We are all a combined effort of everyone we have ever known, we pick out the pieces of a person and mirror them, trying them on like clothes before developing yourself as a person. Thus, do we know who we are, or who we will be in the future? As if this whole self-discovery stuff isn't enough to think about there is also the matter of other people. Maybe we all view everyone else as characters in our own personal stories, as paper people, two dimensional. We need to stop thinking about our stories, and also stop trying to become someone else. Some people believe that to understand someone, we need to become them. I think this is wrong, we can never truly become someone else. We can only imagine, and no matter how close our imagination takes us to becoming that person, it will never happen. because we are all different. So giving a paper person, a doll in the story of your life a three dimensional self, to truly understand someone, takes time. It takes time spent hanging out with each other, telling each other things and trusting that the other person will never spill your secrets. And then this is where friendship takes hold. But even then friendship can be a variable in life, people backstab their friends, exclude certain people for their own reasons and when this sort of things occur they are not thinking about their friend, a three dimensional person with a story of their own. They become flimsy, like paper. Flexible even. We start to believe that we want our lives to go and bend to certain paths, and that we can bend our paper friends with us. But we can't, because they have stories too. They are running parallel with us, and yes they can bend but like most things if you bend it too much it will break. Life is about what you make it, but also about how we take the stuff that life throws at us. And whilst we are caught between deciding careers, uni's, countries and so on, remember your friends, people who are so much more than paper dolls in your story, people who can truly understand you, without becoming you (after all it is YOUR life only) and who have their own stories running with yours, and they'll bend with you and your decisions.

So, to all my friends thankyou!
And to everyone, read Paper Towns by John Green. $19.50 at Borders
Ciao